There is a silent plague affecting modern man - frienditis, or put another way, a lack of masculinity. Did you know that if you are under 30 you are four times more likely to be 'just friends' with a woman than men of the past?.
One of my past clients is a typical sufferer. He is attractive, he is successful, he has loads of friends, particularly loads of female friends. And get this, there was one of his friends that had the hots for. She even slept in the same bed with him. For over and year. And nothing happened. Here is a great bloke, on the surface he has everything a woman could want, but just couldn't get the women he wanted.
This is incredibly common. I find that men are afraid of making the first move with women, they are scared of even thinking about having sex with the women they fancy - because they are worried about coming across as a sleazy bastard.
He, and many many other men, are a casualty of the war that Feminism quite rightly waged against male chauvinist pigs and for equality. Women are quite right to demand equal pay, equal rights, equal opportunities, and they still don't get it - 96% of company directors are still men, and women still on average get paid less than man. Often a lot less.
The problem is that the baby got thrown out with the bathwater. The reason - in most people's minds masculine man = male chauvinist pig.
These are two completely different things, you can be a masculine man and still respect women. You can still take the lead, love sex and be able to kick the shit out of a mugger and treat your woman as an equal. In fact, you might find women love you for it.
So what is a masculine man? In my books:
- He is able to physically handle himself
- He is willing to take the lead and make strong decisions
- And most of all he is comfortable with sex and being sexual
As opposed to the Male Chauvinist Pig who:
- thinks women should stick to their traditional roles
- treats women as sex objects to be used and thrown away
- is just one of the old-fashioned bastards who treats women badly
Now they key issue here is that women love masculine men. They love having a man who can make decisions, who can make the first move, and who as well as making love, can give them a good hard shagging!
And why is it that the bad boys continue to get the girls? That's because pretty much all male chauvinist pigs are masculine. But unfortunately too many modern men have chucked their masculinity out the door.
Quick guide to becoming more masculine:
- Take up Krav Maga - in one afternoon you'll learn how to take out a mugger in seconds flat
- Realise it's OK to take the lead and be the hunter
- When you are with a woman you fancy think sex. Think what you want to do with her. Imagine it in detail. Enjoy yourself.
- And most importantly, realise that you can be masculine without being a male chauvinist pig