Friday, 4 April 2008

Something for the Ladies #7

Thank God it's Friday. Not because it's the end of the working week, oh no - but because our weekly opportunity to spray our sexperty musk has arrived once more. You know the deal, but in case you don't;

: If there's ever been anything about men you've wanted to know but were afraid to ask, or wanted a male viewpoint on a certain relationship niggle you're going through, drop an email to us at todger dot talk at googlemail dot com. Every week, we shall pick one out and answer it to the best of our capabilities.

Gentlemen: We would very much appreciate your input, so the comments section of each Something For The Ladies post will be yours and yours alone for 24 hours. In other words, all female comments will be deleted. Sorry ladies, but in this case we'd be very grateful if you'd hush those sweet keystrokes and let the chaps have their say. Just for today, though.

This week's question...

Autumn writes:
In a recent Something For The Ladies Mr. Sex said, "(it's one of the reasons why men love doggy-style, by the way - doesn't feel as tight, and we're in full control of our strokes). " I know that my partner absolutely loves to finish doggy-style (we do about 95% of the time) and I don't mind because it feels fantastic, but what IS it about doggy-style that men love so? You mentioned tightness (it's less tight? Isn't tighter generally more desirable?) and stroke control. What else makes it so much fun? Does the sense of anonymity make it more exciting or is that nothing to do with it?

Sam says:
OK, there are a couple of things that work for men in doggy style. The first is that deep down we are monkeys, and that's the way we used to do it. According to Desmond Morris, it was the biological requirement of pair bonding, which helped us to survive in non forest environments, that led us to swap over and shag face to face. In other words, doggy style does it for the monkey inside the man. It ignites his animal instinct because it's just so primitive.

Also, men love doggy style because it allows them to penetrate as deeply as they possibly can, and also because your bottom presses against his balls for extra stimulation. And it's also the visual thing; the sight of a bum really turns a man on, and to add the icing on the cake he gets to see his todger pumping in and out of you. To be honest, also since men can't see your face they can happily pretend they are shagging Christie Turlington without guilt, or the fear of getting caught. So really the question is, what's not to like about it?

'Mr Sex' says: Sam's pretty much nailed it, but I'll address the tightness question; yes, we do like it reasonably tight, but not all the time, and definitely not when we're finishing off. Like I said before, when we're in that position we feel in control, we can grab hold of your hips (which is a criminally underrated part of the female anatomy) or your shoulders (equally criminally underrated lady-bits), we can gurn away and make as many ridiculous sex-faces as we like, and the view is skill. And yes, we could be thinking about someone else, but I can't say I ever have. And you could be thinking about, I dunno, David Cassidy or Mr Motivator or whoever.


badgerdaddy said...

"and also because your bottom presses against his balls for extra stimulation"

Hang on, isn't doggy style where the chap is behind the lady, who's on all fours... With her arse in the air?

Steve said...

doggy is good for when your girlfriend has pissed you off and you can shag her with a hate face on,flicking the Vs.
If you like it a bit rough,you can slip an arm under her armpit and around the back of her neck for a kind of wrestling doggy.
You can pull her head back by grabbing her hair if shes into that,most of my partners loved their hair pulled.One also liked my other hand clamped over her mouth.
Its a fun position-your hands are free to explore her whole body.She can reach through and grab your balls for stimulation or to help stop you coming too quick.You can slap her arse,stick a thumb up her backside,reach round and rub her clit.
Theres also the joke "rodeo" position,where you call out an exs name and see how long you can stay on,but I've never done that.
I have imagined shagging someone else in doggy;the relationship was coming to an end.I remember I didnt really want to fuck her,but she was in stockings,and she got into doggy on the bed and wagged her arse at me..instant bonk-on,especially as from behind she looked like a mates girlfriend,similar hair and build.So I slipped my hand over her mouth and shagged my mates girlfriend..what a git..but it was very nice.

Anonymous said...

My girl does have a very nice bottom, but for me it's more about the frenulum having something firm and textured to rub against (g-spot, PC muscle, etc.). It's also easier to pace and regulate the stimulation by varying depth without having gravity work against you.

JL said...

You get the full effect of a woman's hourglass shape, and I like women's backs.

stubby said...

It also is the best position when you don't have a long schlong! Something about the position gives you the best penetration angle possible with your equipment!

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Tony Play said...

A lot of it is baout control for me, I can control the speed and depthe of my "stroke" so to speak. You dont get that thrust control from any other position in my opinion. Oh and I agree, the hour shape of a womans back is amazing to look at

Duke Orsino said...

I'm going to vote against, I'm afraid.

And, frankly, some of the misogyny that crops up when this subject comes up demonstrates why. I like to actually communicate with whoever I'm with, face to face (actually, I prefer her on top, because I'm lazy). I like to pretend that it's an exchange of pleasure and intimacy, however fleeting.

Don't get me wrong. "Doggie" (ew) is nice from time to time, there's a certain feeling of power and the head games that go with it, and as has been pointed out there are advantages sensation-wise. However, it would appear that many men like it precisely because they can pretend that their partner is little more that a cunt and an arse, and they can just get on with relieving themselves with little regard for anyone else.

I have three words of advice for any man who feels like that. Get. A. Fleshlight. They feel just as good on your todger, and you don't have to be nice to their mothers. Or, you could enjoy, er, liking women. I've heard that some women like men who like women. And we all know where that can lead to ...

butterflywings said...

duke orsino: *applauds*.
One comment in particular further up the thread made me shudder...yep, er, "hate face?"
And why would you want to have sex with someone if you are pissed off with, don't answer that!