Monday, 7 April 2008

Sam: Signals from Men

Last week I talked about flirting signals from women. But what about flirting signals from men?

Men are simple creatures. If they look at you once, then they are checking you out. If they look at you twice, then they fancy you. If they look at you more than this then they really fancy you.

This fits in perfectly with the idea of giving a green light. Because if you manage to catch their eye a second time you also know that they are giving you a green light back - in other words, if they catch your eye again they fancy you. And what about when you actually get talking to them?

According to the international body language expert Tracey Cox, the following are sure signs things are going well:

He’ll become an attention seeker – when a guy fancies you he will try and attract your attention. This might mean he suddenly seems to become louder and more boisterous or makes exaggerated movements and gestures. He might also stand slightly apart from his friends.

He’ll play with his hair – if a guy fancies you he will involuntarily ‘preen’ trying to make himself look good for you.

He’ll show off his body – when a guy fancies you he will stand taller and perhaps slightly puff out his chest.

He’ll show off the crown jewels – men don’t realise this, but when they are around women they fancy, they unconsciously spread their legs, showing you what’s on offer.

He’ll start undressing – when we fancy someone we unconsciously start undressing. If he starts undoing buttons, or taking off his jacket, then he is starting something he would probably like to finish in your bedroom

His hands will go on his hips – unconsciously he is making himself look bigger which suggests confidence. Also, we point towards what we want people to see, so you might notice his fingers pointing towards his groin.

He’ll start touching himself – when we are attracted to someone, our skin, particularly our mouth, becomes more sensitive to being touched. You might notice him touching his chin, lips or cheek more or drinking or smoking faster.

He’ll lend you something – this is a protective and sexy ownership gesture – he is offering something that is his to you. Plus, it means he has to hang around to get it back before the end of the night.

14 comments:

Anna said...

Aww. I actually find this simplicity very endearing.

Innocent Loverboy said...

What about blushing and looking at the floor? Or start talking incessantly? I do those things...

Tina said...

What about having your hands in your trouser pockets & jingling your 'change'? Is that a signal? Or do you just have too much change?

Anonymous said...

this is great stuff. Thanks, Sam, you made my day!

Anonymous said...

What if he does all this stuff but insists he only sees you as a friend?

Anonymous said...

He is into you, but is "certain" that he's got no chance.

Katie said...

That's interesting, I have a close friend that does all this...and mor.....yet insists he's having a 'work' year.

piglet said...

Attention seeking, playing with hair, showing off my body, touching myself - something that I notice myself doing whenever i fancy a guy :D. Should I consider myself a man?

JL said...

These behaviors are cultural.

In the US, 'preening' is at a minimum. Touching oneself is something I have never, ever seen. A lot of general fidgeting, working up gumption (look it up), and approach, is all.

Most people, as it is a 'Christian' nation, are taught not to touch their genitals in decent company, and the vast majority of men here won't.

In the USA, it revolves around speech.

Body language? Strong and capable, the man approaching a woman (probably with friends), squaring off, hands on a surface or active in something other than groping, and proof in both respectfulness and sexual capability at the same time.

No, no-one can do that, but it's how it is.

Emily said...

I don't think it meant "touching oneself" in the sexual capacity, just that the bloke physically touches his own body more (ie. face or similar).

Anna said...

Heh, yeah, pretty sure it means face / neck / hands. A lot of these signals are the same in women.

bloggorazzi said...

How about looking through the kitchen window at night?

One Fine Weasel said...

oh my god my flatmate really really fancies me :O

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Unconsciously he is making himself look bigger which suggests confidence. Also, we point towards what we want people to see, so you might notice his fingers pointing towards his groin.