Over a glass of wine this weekend one of my friends asked me an interesting question – why is it that you see a bunch ugly men with gorgeous women in the public eye, but you pretty much never see gorgeous men with ugly women? And then she made a quick followup – which ugly woman in the public eye would you do?
On the first point I must admit I was a bit stumped. There is the old evolutionary argument – women look for intelligence, resources and status within the tribe, so are happy to go out with a smart, rich important ugly bloke. On the other hand, men go for genetic quality –good skin, and a symetrical face all tend to point to good genes and a healthy immune system. The second thing we speculated about is, well lets face it, there really aren’t every many ugly women in the public eye. The media just pretty much filters them all out. But really, you would think that in the 21st Century things might be a bit different. The two of us men at the table then thought long and hard about unattractive women in the public eye who we wouldn’t mind getting a leg over and our list was pretty poor. We couldn’t get much further than Dawn French (who as pointed out is just fat, and actually quite pretty).
There are times that I have met unattractive women who just had something, they were sexy, they had energy and I definitely would have (and on occasions did) sleep with them. What about you, got any crushes on ugly girls? Or do we all really just fancy Lucy Pinder?
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Huh, interesting! In real life you seem to see a lot of hot guys with ugly girls. I have a huge thing for a guy I know who is around a 7 (being ojective - I think he's an 8 but my friends will only agree as far as a 7) but his girlfriend is a 4 or 5 depending on how mean I'm feeling (again, being objective, I have canvassed opinion). You see it all the time and I get rather worked up about it. 8's should date 8's and 4's should date 4's!
Dawn French isn't ugly, she's just fat. I used to know somebody who had a thing about Annette Crosbie - again, she's not ugly, just older.
I have a friend obsessed with tracy emin the artist - completely baffling to all my other male friends. i gues beauty is in the eye of the beholder (and normally this guy is well fussy about girls he dates)
Totally disagree with Neurotic Girl. I can't think of any attractive men in my whole social circle who are with girls below their own standard of attractiveness, but I can think of many situations vice versa.
It's an interesting problem you pose, Sam, and it's hard not to feel a little despairing when made aware of it. Too bloody right the media filters out unattractive women, and it's completely unfair. The question is, where the hell do we go from here when so few men OR women will admit the problem exists???
I have always had a soft spot for Mel C off of the Spice Girls who isn't what you'd call "traditionally gorgeous".
I would admit also to quite liking Liza Minnelli - although that crush was better in 1989 (me 15, her 43) than it is today (I'd be less inclined to snog a 63 year old)...
Dawn French is incredibly pretty. She's just fat. Read http://kateharding.net while you're about, ay?
Actually, I've met plenty of good looking men who were either going out with, or married to, unattractive women. Problem: most of the men either have low self esteem or *had* low self esteem. There's an awful lot of ship-jumping once the men get their feet under them. :(
I think the reason good looking men might venture out and date a women who is less attractive because A) It is an ego boost for them, making them look even more good looking and raise their self-esteem or
B) They figure the girl will not cheat on them.
Gee, whatever happened to "I love his/her personality; she makes me feel good"?
I consider myself decent looking. I'm married to a beautiful woman whom I met after my heart was broken in a case of unrequited love by a woman who would not be universally described as stunningly beautiful. But I loved her and would have married her.
Sporty Spice is lovely!
(and whisper it quietly, but I can also see the whole Tracey Emin thing. She's dirty, innit?)
Oh, and not every man is shallow, and some may go for some minger they really like and get on well with. Surely? Anyone? Anyone? Bueller?
I don't think that anyone wants to afford that women but probably she has nice feelings and she is special.
haha Now, why would someone want to afford her? But hey yeah as someone said, she may be liked for her nice feelings, if she have any.
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