tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post8122383171674474726..comments2024-03-25T09:34:50.580+00:00Comments on Todger Talk: Sam: Hunting for FunSamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12796175279935659886noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-21842418739200378672009-02-05T09:39:00.000+00:002009-02-05T09:39:00.000+00:00HiI'm a bloke and i love to dance too. I find that...Hi<BR/><BR/>I'm a bloke and i love to dance too. I find that gigs tend to be better than clubs coz everyone goes to the gig for the band NOT to pull, well in theory....<BR/><BR/>The buying drinks thing is a pretty complex one. I have a similar problem with pals who insist on buying 'rounds'. I prefer to buy my own and therefore drink at my own rate and not 'owe' anyone anything. Coz of the 'minefield' it is I rarely offer to buy females a drink. Mind you, maybe that's why i'm single?<BR/><BR/>Cheers<BR/><BR/>JulesAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-28871215402561080022009-02-04T18:54:00.000+00:002009-02-04T18:54:00.000+00:00Fi Fi, I think you're being slightly paranoid, but...Fi Fi, I think you're being slightly paranoid, but I know it can be awkward if a guy really insists on buying you a drink. In my book, drink should certainly not equal shag, they're hardly on the same level if you think about it logically. When someone asks to buy you a drink, ask what they'd like when you go to the bar later. That way, you make it clear that that's the most they can expect of you. If you feel like taking it further later on, you're all clear, but without the burden of expectation.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-54108417882505074532009-02-04T09:46:00.000+00:002009-02-04T09:46:00.000+00:00I have to agree with Ys - everyone watching, and t...I have to agree with Ys - everyone watching, and the woman in question, will all assume you're on the pull. It's one of the reasons I don't really enjoy nightclubs - you accidentally find yourself facing the wrong way on the dance floor for a split second and the guy you end up facing thinks you're about to drop your knickers for him! It would be lovely if you could just dance with people with no expectation but I don't think that's the real world.<BR/><BR/>Actually, I have a question on a similar subject for other commenters - does the same go for accepting a drink from a guy? Safety concerns about spiked drinks aside, if I get chatting to a guy in a bar/club and he offers me a drink, I feel that if I say no I'm horrendously rude, but if I say yes, I've effectively agreed to sleep with him. Paranoid?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-83817241549413267872009-02-03T21:41:00.000+00:002009-02-03T21:41:00.000+00:00You want to just dance with a girl in a nightclub ...You want to just dance with a girl in a nightclub and not expect her and everyone else to think you're on the pull? <I>NEVER</I> going to happen - <I>ever</I>. That's what nightclubs are for. It's a cattle market. Which is a shame cos I love to dance.boohoohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10356984519402775537noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-53207847818115889822009-02-03T13:09:00.000+00:002009-02-03T13:09:00.000+00:00I can't dance for shit - seriously, prosthetic leg...I can't dance for shit - seriously, prosthetic legs on me and might actually improve the situation. Generally if I try and dance with a girl she thinks I'm attempting to attack her. 'That look' Sam mentions is usually her best pouty 'I've got mace in my bag' look I when am involved.<BR/><BR/>Any dance tutors reading this who want to give me dance lessons I would happily participate as a todger talk experiment!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-41479706106361190342009-02-03T12:53:00.000+00:002009-02-03T12:53:00.000+00:00How refreshing! I approach clubbing with the same ...How refreshing! I approach clubbing with the same casual attitude even though the guys I chat up think I'm gagging for it. They know different when I walk away after the really nice chat or dance. Even when I fancy someone I like to draw out the excitement, to the point where holding hands is electrifying...mmm...yum :-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com