tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post6001264625994372535..comments2024-03-25T09:34:50.580+00:00Comments on Todger Talk: Something for the Ladies # 28Samhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12796175279935659886noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-55981518067992979652009-09-06T09:27:30.123+01:002009-09-06T09:27:30.123+01:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.sexual-problemshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14492969812840194423noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-72459069306602800802009-09-05T04:24:41.358+01:002009-09-05T04:24:41.358+01:00hi, I just read this and I probably late to the ta...hi, I just read this and I probably late to the table, but the advice here is dead on. You have to get she for your own self respect. I'm sorry but the guy's being a fuckwit 'for your benefit', he seems pretty good with excuses. How long do you think it will be before he fools around with her and blames it on the fact you're in France? He's taken her into his confidenece and not you and that's the wrong direction in my eyes. You're even questioning it yourself. If it's not too late, I hope you've got rid.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-80995832491340421992009-08-15T19:01:33.931+01:002009-08-15T19:01:33.931+01:00Get rid. Recipe for long term unhappiness, pull th...Get rid. Recipe for long term unhappiness, pull the bandaid off now.Kirseshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01844127984994772475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-32032868691126905582009-08-04T13:11:35.136+01:002009-08-04T13:11:35.136+01:00No-one's calling his honesty into question, ma...No-one's calling his honesty into question, mate - it's the fact that he even <i>thought</i> about moving in with someone he had a tussle with, while his girlfriend is in another country.Nottingham's 'Mr Sex'https://www.blogger.com/profile/09769299051936139851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-44613020763281805012009-08-04T11:20:43.053+01:002009-08-04T11:20:43.053+01:00I'm sure the guy is telling the truth, give hi...I'm sure the guy is telling the truth, give him the benefit of the doubt.bloggorazzihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12690778110966919031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-81892012125184955702009-07-31T16:04:20.165+01:002009-07-31T16:04:20.165+01:00Tara and anonymous are spot on too!Tara and anonymous are spot on too!Julesnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-87818086009026214602009-07-31T13:30:16.619+01:002009-07-31T13:30:16.619+01:00Dump him- move on with your life - enjoy FranceDump him- move on with your life - enjoy FranceAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-84017154895718283692009-07-30T22:59:08.294+01:002009-07-30T22:59:08.294+01:00Hm.. Nobody here knows you three.
Perhaps he real...Hm.. Nobody here knows you three.<br /><br />Perhaps he really has learned from his previous mistake and wouldn't touch that girl even if she danced around him clad in nothing but a feather boa.<br /><br />Maybe he really wanted to move in for nothing but the money and keep it from you because he was (rightfully) worried what it would look like to you.<br /><br />TBH, I'm not sure at all whether I believe anything I just said but I feel that all the arguments so far have been way too one-sided given that nobody has a serious idea what's really going on in your lives.<br /><br />I think the stronger reason in this case is your question itself. You don't trust him. Whether you're right or wrong doesn't matter much, what counts are your feelings towards him. And if I take a look of what you've revealed about your own position so far, I should say dump him - not because of him, but because of you. This relationship won't work, regardless of what he does or doesn't do; the damage is done.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-88628786588410272052009-07-30T21:49:06.359+01:002009-07-30T21:49:06.359+01:00I've been in long distance situations and I...I've been in long distance situations and I'd feel just as uncomfortable about your bf and that girl if I were in your shoes. Long distance is hard enough without this sort of a jealousy trigger/ alarm bell causing you (irrational or not) anxiety and misery.<br /><br />In this case, what he wants/doesn't want and what he should/shouldn't do (e.g. maybe he really wants to pay cheap rent, maybe he should have been more proactive in disclosing the situation to you, blah blah) is possibly besides the point - if you're going to be apart for months, then the most important thing is this: what do <i>you</i> want and what should you therefore do?<br /><br />Not to say that you don't love each other or that the guy is a douchebag, but if at the end of the day there is still all this zombified back-from-the-dead emotional baggage threatening to disturb your peace of mind while you're living in up in la belle France, then you might want to consider this carefully before embarking on the LDR. <br /><br />Good luck xTaranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-56243696390045047712009-07-30T18:38:51.688+01:002009-07-30T18:38:51.688+01:00The fact that he hadn't disclosed this informa...The fact that he hadn't disclosed this information to you does indicate another breach of trust, surely. The guys do make an excellent argument and you may also want to consider how you feel about yourself. Do you have enough self-respect to walk away at this point or will you offer him another chance? How did it make you feel when you found out he'd kept this from you? If was all so innocent, there would have been no need to hide a thing. <br />Incidentally, that gut-wrenching, highly nauseating feeling gets worse the lower the self-esteem becomes. Bon chance.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-86433550631548993272009-07-30T18:10:40.230+01:002009-07-30T18:10:40.230+01:00Staying with this guy while you go to France will ...<b>Staying with this guy while you go to France will not make you happy, it will stop you enjoying your 6 months in France</b><br /><br />This. 1000 times.my sun sets to rise againhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05536511793536288061noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-19182734425642607512009-07-30T15:49:06.633+01:002009-07-30T15:49:06.633+01:00Excellent advice, fellas. Really spot on.Excellent advice, fellas. Really spot on.suburbanhenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17711550580375344119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-54244357662331128492009-07-30T14:48:08.434+01:002009-07-30T14:48:08.434+01:00I agree with Mr Sex, Sam and Jules, too (except wi...I agree with Mr Sex, Sam and Jules, too (except with less French puns). <br /><br />Staying with this guy while you go to France will not make you happy, it will stop you enjoying your 6 months in France. By rights, this time abroad should be some of the most exciting and free months of your life: don't let him spoil that!<br /><br />BUT, sometimes people don't want to listen to advice, and if you do love this guy, you probably won't listen to us, no matter how adamant everyone is that you should dump him. If you do stay with him, the only way I can see you enjoying France as much as you should is if he agrees to stop all contact with this girl (and definitely not live with her). <br /><br />Good luck xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-77972611053379926732009-07-30T14:00:09.336+01:002009-07-30T14:00:09.336+01:00'Mr Sex', my dear. I was always rubbish at...'<b>Mr</b> Sex', my dear. I was always rubbish at playing Operation. I could never get the elastic band out.Nottingham's 'Mr Sex'https://www.blogger.com/profile/09769299051936139851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-27747609586729443522009-07-30T13:56:22.105+01:002009-07-30T13:56:22.105+01:00Sadly I think that Sam and DR Sex are dead right!Sadly I think that Sam and DR Sex are dead right!Julesnoreply@blogger.com