tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post3942807625647434706..comments2024-03-25T09:34:50.580+00:00Comments on Todger Talk: Sam: Putting on the PorkSamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12796175279935659886noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-31064487504082452102008-10-17T14:32:00.000+01:002008-10-17T14:32:00.000+01:00To Anonymous:Weight and the role of food in societ...To Anonymous:<BR/><BR/>Weight and the role of food in society are funny things. <BR/><BR/>When you drastically change weight in a short time it's not unusual for your partner to lose sexual interest as what they've become comfortable with has been forceably removed. It takes time to re-adjust and to see the benefits. It's akin to a grieving process.<BR/><BR/>Also, food and drink play a large part in social interaction and if you separate yourself from that interaction (say to diet or to keep weight that you've lost off) then you can be seen as being aloof and separatist. There's great truth in the saying that a family who eats together, stays together.<BR/><BR/>Now, that's not meant to put you off staying healthy and getting in shape, it's just recognising that human beings are basically stupid and have gut reactions to stuff.<BR/><BR/>There's no easy path but if your husband loves you he'll come around in the end.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-22979028865744138412008-10-17T11:39:00.000+01:002008-10-17T11:39:00.000+01:00My husband waited until he was drunk to tell me I ...My husband waited until he was drunk to tell me I 'could do with losing a stone or two'. I did as requested (stupid, I hear you cry) and he has since told me he did not find me sexually attractive as a size 14. Now he says I'm obsessed with my weight and if I lose much more I should prepare to be very lonely. It's scary how much weight is a factor for some people. I would never dream of saying anything to him, even though he has put on a, ahem, fair amount of poundage. For me it's the person, not the dress size.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-11835640413648238822008-10-15T13:06:00.000+01:002008-10-15T13:06:00.000+01:00the strange thing is the difference between attitu...the strange thing is the difference between attitudes of men and women when they start to put on weight. <BR/><BR/>women become distraught and self-critical, examining themselves from every angle in the mirror and torturing themselves by trying to fit into old clothes. but rarely do they do anything about it - they just make themselves more miserable.<BR/><BR/>men resign themselves to their increasing waistline, throwing away the clothes they've grown out of and merely accepting the fact that, as is decreed by their father's beer belly, theirs is beginning to emerge. <BR/><BR/>i think it's a lot healthier (mentally, not physically) to adopt the male stance of self-acceptance, even if you are getting podgier. however, this didn't stop me running into my parents' room this weekend while i was visiting, shouting "IF I LOSE FIVE POUNDS I'D BE ABLE TO FIT INTO THESE TROUSERS AGAIN!!!" while my mum was on the phone. after all, they're very nice trousers and i can't throw them away because one day i might fit into them again. if only i lost some weight.blueskies2dayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06906067194295461991noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-38538960848452370542008-10-14T21:27:00.000+01:002008-10-14T21:27:00.000+01:00My first boyfriend put on half his body weight aga...My first boyfriend put on half his body weight again in the decade we lived together. My current partner weighed eight until he moved in with me at the age of 38, and is now well over ten. Hell, even my cat got fat when I adopted her from the RSPCA. What am I doing wrong???Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-14831542762761086822008-10-14T10:56:00.000+01:002008-10-14T10:56:00.000+01:00On the other hand, there is nothing funnier than a...On the other hand, there is nothing funnier than a woman reprimanding her man when they are in public "Honey, we talked about it...No ice cream." or sometimes it's just a look worth thousand words ;)lalitahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13774482163636307201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-41442940566490801202008-10-13T18:56:00.000+01:002008-10-13T18:56:00.000+01:00If I didn't exercise, my wife would kill me, and v...If I didn't exercise, my wife would kill me, and vice versa - we're both just much nicer, happier people with exercise, and that's why we do it. We enjoy it, it helps keep us both calm in stressful jobs, and gives us both the horn.<BR/>I'm still porky - it's my attitude and general niceness that exercise brings that make it worthwhile.badgerdaddyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08275758525851693777noreply@blogger.com