tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post2671149296205280294..comments2024-03-25T09:34:50.580+00:00Comments on Todger Talk: Sam: DesperitisSamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12796175279935659886noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-40488530670778003012008-02-28T16:53:00.000+00:002008-02-28T16:53:00.000+00:00Nor have I and I live with my mrs :(Nor have I and I live with my mrs :(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-78947719357374343102008-02-27T19:31:00.000+00:002008-02-27T19:31:00.000+00:00Desperitis. Hmmm....I haven't had a sexual partner...Desperitis. Hmmm....<BR/>I haven't had a sexual partner since 2000. Think I qualify?<BR/>:D<BR/><BR/>Interesting advice there, Anonymous.TheGimphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01651493919237057764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-75097540221709842982008-02-27T18:38:00.000+00:002008-02-27T18:38:00.000+00:00Interesting post...anonymous' advice is pretty goo...Interesting post...<BR/><BR/>anonymous' advice is pretty good.<BR/><BR/>I suppose the first step is to be completely happy with yourself <I>anyway</I> and then set out to find a relationship...<BR/><BR/>Love the blog! Keep up the good work guys!TJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00095813897930533591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-5344136370474765352008-02-26T10:10:00.000+00:002008-02-26T10:10:00.000+00:00I agree a hundred percent with danelk! I have a fr...I agree a hundred percent with danelk! <BR/>I have a friend who seems to only define himself by whether he's in a relationship or not. He can't be happy otherwise and I don't just mean 'not completely happy' I mean he's depressed otherwise. Me on the other hand I see relationships as something that adds to my happiness, I'll be a lot happier if I'm in a functioning relationship obviously but I can still be happy being single. <BR/>My boyfriend just broke up with me which really broke my heart because I loved him very much but I'm getting over it. The first thing my friend said to me when I told him about it was 'you'll find someone'. I don't know but for some reason that almost offended me although I know of course that it was meant in the nicest way. I just don't like having that pressure a la 'you have to find someone fast otherwise you must be a really unhappy person'. What BS.<BR/><BR/>Sorry if that got a bit off topic. *g*Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-12921519398964600782008-02-26T09:10:00.000+00:002008-02-26T09:10:00.000+00:00Bad analogy! Because the less you eat, the less hu...Bad analogy! Because the less you eat, the less hungry you become; you lose your appetite. Much like relationships, the more you find yourself dealing with b*ll sh*t, the more you become numb to it all. Only people that have to be defined by a relationship will feel that they are starving...DanelKhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18413397609980108453noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-32153024580478497792008-02-25T20:15:00.000+00:002008-02-25T20:15:00.000+00:00Spot on..same thing happens to women too.Spot on..same thing happens to women too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-33239102048552647562008-02-25T17:40:00.000+00:002008-02-25T17:40:00.000+00:00Hmm top advice anonymous!Hmm top advice anonymous!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16911606744887152262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-75073368518183766322008-02-25T17:31:00.000+00:002008-02-25T17:31:00.000+00:00Here's the deal, I think. Think of all those thin...Here's the deal, I think. Think of all those things that you want in a partner, then do those things for yourself. You want someone who's fit, then get fit. You want someone who's well-read, then start reading. <BR/>Also, do what you love. It will make you happier, and you will meet people while you get out there.<BR/>Worked for me!<BR/>I sure love reading this Blog. Thank you for the insight, and the good laughs.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-66501661040854272272008-02-25T14:03:00.000+00:002008-02-25T14:03:00.000+00:00Been there.Been there.Innocent Loverboyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16564876728079783376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-26822214374242481252008-02-25T13:42:00.000+00:002008-02-25T13:42:00.000+00:00I have met sufferers, and it's freaky. I wish it w...I have met sufferers, and it's freaky. I wish it wasn't, but of course if they weren't so freaky they'd most likely have found someone because they're not terrible people!<BR/><BR/>I always felt absolutely terrible about rejecting their advances, but of course pity-dates would benefit neither of us.<BR/><BR/>Sufferers of Desperitis do seem to give off an air of not being happy with themselves. My 'advice', such as it is, would be that you can't be happy in a relationship unless you're first reasonably happy with yourself, comfortable in your own skin. But as you say, how can you teach someone those things?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16911606744887152262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-66959661855548154892008-02-25T10:08:00.000+00:002008-02-25T10:08:00.000+00:00I'm well aware of the curse of desperitis, as I as...I'm well aware of the curse of desperitis, as I assume most men who have been bullied and suffered from low confidence have in their time. Fortunately I don't anymore, and am now the epitome of confidence. It's sad to see people with it, I have an old work friend who is REALLY suffering, and as you say it's a cycle that feeds off itself.<BR/><BR/>I don't know how I got out of it. I think I was lucky enough to have some girls take pity on me, which boosted my confidence, which turns into the opposite cycle and ended up with me as I am today, quite the confident and self affirmed man.<BR/><BR/>In both men and women there is nothing more unattractive than desperateness!Boyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17701149222441418342noreply@blogger.com