tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post2261657002418563138..comments2024-03-25T09:34:50.580+00:00Comments on Todger Talk: Sam: What makes a good wife?Samhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12796175279935659886noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-82214201871542898392008-05-20T09:50:00.000+01:002008-05-20T09:50:00.000+01:00Obviously, like anyone I have a collection of idea...Obviously, like anyone I have a collection of ideal traits etc, but for me at the moment (I say this because my opinions change all the time), respect is the most important thing. I need to have a lot of respect for my partner. This means I won't take him for granted, take advantage of him, and I would never manipulate him or be unreasonable. I think what is missing in a lot of relationships is mutual respect, for the self and the partner.blueskies2dayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06906067194295461991noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-15030428898699932792008-05-20T01:57:00.000+01:002008-05-20T01:57:00.000+01:00My ideal guy does not whine. Not about me nor abou...My ideal guy does not whine. Not about me nor about himself.<BR/>Also, he is my equal, and/or, even more importantly, feels my equal - I hate being looked up or down to.<BR/>(He has to smell right, of course, otherwise we wouldn't end up in a relationship, long or short-term, would we?)<BR/>And I am living with a near ideal guy now - they do exist :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-1406122352223414452008-05-19T18:36:00.000+01:002008-05-19T18:36:00.000+01:00Having previously discussed this with many of my g...Having previously discussed this with many of my girlfriends, I can empirically claim that although there are some universal "ideal" traits (e.g. reliable, good sense of humour etc), women can also differ quite substantially on what they want in a guy. <BR/><BR/>One girlfriend made it clear that her ideal man had to be her equal, if not superior, in intellect and earning power, among other things. Given that she is a fiercely independent, intellectually brilliant woman who earns shitloads as an investment banker, I've got all my fingers and toes crossed for her.<BR/><BR/>I second what Sam said about love, sexual chemistry and being able to talk. I couldn't be with someone with whom I felt no sexual chemistry. <BR/><BR/>And yes, sometimes love alone often isn't enough to make a relationship work.. but it is by far the most important thing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-75899794550849059572008-05-19T15:55:00.000+01:002008-05-19T15:55:00.000+01:00IDEAL MATE QUALITIES:have compatible life goalscom...IDEAL MATE QUALITIES:<BR/><BR/>have compatible life goals<BR/>compatible sexual chemistry wants/needs<BR/>be attentive and supportive<BR/>should be aware of doing the little things<BR/>be openly loving and communicative<BR/>be ambitious/driven/passionate<BR/>share work loads 50/50 (including house hold chores)<BR/>support/be understanding of the womans career<BR/>have a good sense of humor<BR/>have similar interests<BR/>compatible political viewpoints!<BR/>should "keep himself fit"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-76024282745653641952008-05-19T14:27:00.000+01:002008-05-19T14:27:00.000+01:00All I knew before I had a boyfriend was that he be...All I knew before I had a boyfriend was that he better pray and not smoke; apart from that, I didn't have high standards.<BR/><BR/>now that I'm actually IN a relationship, the ability to talk with him, play with him, tease him, learn from him, and share experiences with him is something better than I would have hoped for.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16911606744887152262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-50594158102234219712008-05-19T13:46:00.000+01:002008-05-19T13:46:00.000+01:00Easy mistake to make, though. When I was 5, and my...Easy mistake to make, though. When I was 5, and my Grandpa used to take me out for the papers on a Sunday morning, I'd always ask him to take me into the sex shop on the way. When he finally asked why, I pointed at the sign that read 'MARITAL AIDS' and said "Look, Grandpa - 'MARTIAL ARTS'. Maybe Bruce Lee's working in there"Nottingham's 'Mr Sex'https://www.blogger.com/profile/09769299051936139851noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-71769404452559072102008-05-19T13:21:00.000+01:002008-05-19T13:21:00.000+01:00Putting aside the whole good wife thing, I had to ...Putting aside the whole good wife thing, I had to laugh out loud at the type in the first sentence - marital rating scale or martial?? Freudian slip??Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7448867658264499706.post-14526730812909879022008-05-19T12:48:00.000+01:002008-05-19T12:48:00.000+01:00For me personally, I would have to say GSOH first....For me personally, I would have to say GSOH first. I act like a first class idiot and always have a stupid cheeky grin on my face, and its great if I have someone like that. You gotta be able to have REAL fun together. I had relationships where we laughed all the time, and others.. Not so much :\ I know who would pick again!<BR/><BR/>I think there definately needs to be sexual chemistry, the simple fact is, thats what we do. I try not to dress things up, just keep it simple. Couples have sex and should WANT to have sex with each other.<BR/><BR/>I tend to be a bit of an alpha, so can tend to "take charge" but I do like a women who can stand up for herself. Confident women definately do get plus points. However, I can be "old fashioned", I have no probs with working hard and making cash if she were to be looking after the house/kids. But I would never suggest she HAS to stay at home and be a housewife. I know how much I want to "be somebody" and if she tried to take that away from me, there would be "problems" :D I would expect no less treatment from her! Im a 50/50 guy!<BR/><BR/>There are some cosmetic issues too, I guess they really feed the "sexual chemistry" more though and definately not "requirements" as such.. Would just be extra bonus points :)<BR/><BR/>I think thats about it.. Must haves: Good sense of humour, confidence. Bonus: blonde hair, nice blue eyes, great smile and in good shape. This is what I would call the "jackpot" :D<BR/><BR/>Interesting topic! Its nice to see that the feminism movement has been very successful, yet its not gone too far "the other way".. (IMO)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com